Hey, last night I was on the phone with my girlfriend, and she told me something that shocked and hurt me a lot. About a year ago she used to do really bad stuff, this was before I met her and before she was really a Christian. She made out with several guys who she wasn't dating and let them feel her. One of them she flashed. She's different now, and I know she is. She had just changed when I met her and when I fell in love with her. I still love her just as much, but that hurt me so much. I was in shock, I didn't know what to say or what to do. She's different and forgiven now, I forgave her and God forgave her, but it hurt so much and I just don't know how to respond to it. Someone please help

well it sounds like you've done the right thing by forgiving her, and from there, it's just going to be a up to you to work things out with God. It must hurt a lot, but healing from that kind of shocking news takes time. Just realize that nothing is going to change the past, obviously it's not like your going to wake up tomorrow and she's going to say "haha - i was just kidding"... so you're going to have to accept the fact that she's truly sorry for what she's done, she's repented, and God has forgiven her. You have to live up to the true forgiveness that you said you gave her. Rejoice in the Lord that she's a new person now, and that she realizes her mistakes. Help her to live the christian lifestyle that she wants to live now.

Thanks, that helps me. The thing that kills me though is she seems so amazing now, I look at her picture on my bedside and I see this beautiful innocent girl, and I just can't immagine she'd be like that, she's so different and it's just hard for me to accept and cope with. But what you said about rejoycing in the Lord that she is changed is right. She told me that it if it weren't for me she thinks she might still be who she was. She said I've helped her keep strong in her faith and that if I hadn't helped her she probably would've gone back to her old ways. That made me happy, but it's just so hard for me to accept the fact that she was like that, it hurts and I don't know how to accept and cope with it. I just wish there was someway I could make it all better right away

[b]dedicated720 wrote:[/b] [quote]it's just so hard for me to accept the fact that she was like that, it hurts and I don't know how to accept and cope with it. I just wish there was someway I could make it all better right away[/quote] i'm going to be brutally honest with you..... you can't Life is hard to cope with, and if there was a way to make our problems just disappear and to erase the pain, our world would not be in the midst of the struggles and turmoils it is in right now. What doesn't kill us, only makes us stronger... so instead of trying to make things better as quickly as possible, give your problems to God and allow this situation to help you and your girlfriend grow even closer to God than ever before. 1Peter 5:7 might help you out. It's one of my favorite verses in scripture.